Hi readers! I’ll begin the post with an amazing fact. Research suggests that the order in which a child is born in a family has a huge impact on his development: the eldest one is likely to be a high achiever and a good leader in life because he/she bears the full brunt of parent’s emotions and expectations while the stereotype of the youngest in a family is that they are spoiled with love- everyone in the family has always paid so much attention to them and as an adult, it gets very difficult for them to develop self-confidence that comes from handling things on their own. Exceptions lie everywhere, so please don’t get offended in case you don’t meet the criterion. Just kidding! (It’s a study, hence it’s an extract & not my writing)
I am fascinated to study the dimension of life that functions in terms of experiences, vibrations and energies. The one that is certainly not visible to eyes, yet we cannot disagree that our childhood experiences, self-awareness, consciousness & our imagination (all are forms of non-visible dimensions); play a major role in our evolution. Right?
If above sounds like some jargon to you, let me make it simpler.
Through this blog, I’ll try to unfold before you the power that your mind holds at a sub-conscious level and how certain experiences and ideologies that your brain has impressed upon it all along with your past, has evolved you as ‘you’and has shaped your current version! And most importantly, that a major part of your daily life is being conducted unconsciously.
You’re on an autopilot mode! Changes are a big nay to your mind!
The title quotes, “What’s behind you is what’s gettingyou ahead.”
So, what have you left behind in life? Experiences? People? Both?
Each one of you have walked a different story. You’re nothing but anaccumulation of the good and gloomy events that has happened to you(fortunately or unfortunately) and you carry traces of your past in your persona today.
Starting from the parenting style under which you were nurtured; the bond that your parents shared between themselves and that with you, the influence your society/culture’s values had on your upbringing, those big choices your parents made on your behalf, your alma-mater, your first best friends, your first love… & then happens life…times you made your parents proud, the break-up you survived, times you battled with internal conflicts/depression, the strongest decisions you made for your career finance and relationship, your greatest achievement and the most terrible failure you faced:You carry traces of all these past events in your personality.
The list doesn’t end here. People you met came into your life or crossed your path for a specific reason, a season or came for a lifetime! Some people weren’t meant to last for the long road ahead. Theyjust served as bridges in your pathway and transported you to the next level of your journey while others stayed with you for a lifetime, for a life-long bond.
You’ve already recalled quite a few of them, haven’t you?
(Ab past ko choro…let’s traverse to present continuous :P)
So, do you choose these experiences or people? Not always. Quite a few are choices, the majority are by fate. Got it! Next?
Now, why should you be concerned about it? What has this to do with the subconscious, autopilot thing? Read carefully…you might relate.
Studies show that a kid who was raised in a constantly stressful environment of high parental conflict is more often exposed to increased relationship problems and emotional imbalance during in his adolescence.
Looking into the problem: Early on in his life, he couldn’t place emotional trust on either of his parents because they were constantly disagreeing with each-other& the same subconscious pattern of emotional imbalance continued in a child’s mind even after he grew up.
Another example: Winning Vs. quitting attitude also evolves from subconscious belief patterns. You must have come across people who always accomplish toughest of tasks (cracked toughest examinations, built their business despite several financial adversities), while others who are never sure about anything(which exam to give, which profile to join, what to do when in life, quitting a job, etc.)
The subconscious pattern hereof a winner is that of focus and self-belief. He’ll pour his heart and soul into an endeavor without any second thoughts. He doesn’t believe the concept of quitting because he has never done that in his past, no matter how many times he has failed.
Quitting, on the other hand, is a deadly trap. Once your brain learns to quit, It will keep enjoying temporary relief over hustles.
Closing the loop
Do You understand the connection?
All the experiences you left behind in your past has created rigid programming of your subconscious mind (most of it ain’t true). You’re unconsciously vouching on it in the present & unless you make a conscious effort to pause, check & erase the negative behaviors, the same is gonna handle your life ahead (Autopilot).
Clear off the fog that’s drifting you in your life, see where you’re going, make conscious choices instead of automated ones.