Many times, we have seen that people are not self-confident. They fear what will other think of my decisions rather than believing in their own abilities. Most people find it difficult to understand that their self-doubt is a bigger enemy rather than others.
There is an ancient proverb that says, “When there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.” When you refuse to allow any doubts in your own mind, then no doubts from others will ever cloud your judgement. When you create a strong mind, there will be no one other who can defeat you with their words, or with their judgement.
When you believe in you, you need no one other to believe in you. Because others really have no say in who you will become. Only you have that say. Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. You don’t have to go through life being a victim. Even though you have faced disappointments, you must know within yourself that “I can do it, even if no one else see it for me, I must do it for myself.”
The greatest challenge and greatest obstacle anyone will face is their own doubts, their own fears and their own conditioned thoughts. If you want to live your dream, you must fight for it. You will have to fight the greatest battles of your life.
Without any doubts, you will have to battle the external enemies. These will be in the form of those people who don’t believe in you, those who do you wrong, those who put you down. You will even find out that those close to you might not believe in you. If you ever come across such kind of people, remember Steve Job’s words “Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. It is most important, to have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
However, the worst of all is an internal enemy in face of self-doubt. You will have to battle what seems like an army in your own head. An army of doubt, fear of failure, fear of judgement, lack of belief, the tendency to over think, tendency to over react to a particular situation, this list is endless. There is no greater pain that can be inflicted on you, than your own self-doubt. Your own thoughts will cause you more pain than anyone or anything. Remember one thing, if you don’t have faith in your abilities then don’t expect anyone else has it on you.
When you learn to control and direct your mind, you can direct that internal voice to work for you, rather than against you. You get it to work for you by creating a compelling future. A future you will be proud to achieve, proud to live through. You do this by not just having goals but having meaningful goals. Goals that get you excited to wake up every morning. You do this by understanding what your purpose in life really is. What are you doing this all for. You know these things, when you work on yourself daily, you can quiet your voice in your head. You can feel good enough because you are good enough. But it does take a commitment. A commitment of daily practice to work on yourself.
Self-Doubt destroys more dreams than anything else. When you want something badly enough, there should never be any doubts that you will get it.
Have the hunger, Have the desire, Have the passion, Have the will.
Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity.
Go make your own luck.
Go write your own rules
Go create your own history.
“I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost more than 300 games. 26 times I have been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over again in my life. I wouldn’t be here where I am if I had ever let self-doubt overcome my abilities.”
- Michael Jordan
(former basketball player inducted into Hall of fame and two times Olympic gold medal winner)